Long story slightly shortened: me and my husband are going to visit my parents for Xmas from the 23rd-25th. Once I told my mom about the plans, my sister started miraculously started texting me not 5 minutes later saying "I'm only here once a year, why can't you stay all Xmas day? Why are you guys gonna rush to leave? Etc.". The thing is his family has things going on to the very next day, and my family has been somewhat offensive by subtly accusing my husband of being manipulative. The thing is, I want him to be happy as well, so yes I negotiate with him, and yes I on occasion make sacrifices, just as he does for me. I see nothing wrong with compromise and I see nothing wrong with wanting to make your significant other happy every once in awhile. Moving on from this point. I realized that on the other hand I do get to see his family a lot more because they visits he area a lot. My mom gently suggested through text, after I told her we were rethinking our plans, "remind him that you do a lot with his fam, and Jenna is only in town once a year". What do I do? Stay to make them happy, or let my husband have time with his family to? Also, do I confront them about their attitude on my husband?
Responses (2)
Its not your fault that your sister visit just once time per year.
Dont let your family into your relationship- you are with him and you live with him and they dont know everything what you both do for each other. If the both sides of the family get along together then spend a day or maybe a dinner together.
If your mom or sister still gets bossy tell them you love them, but you love your housband to and he means alot to you. and to him that he spends a day with his family and the woman that he loves.
Our family never comes together anymore just becuse of shit like that. It isnt worth it, u cant tear yourself apart. Next year invite them all to your house so its a bit difrent and u gonna have control of all that happens (yes i know its insane and alot of work but nobody gonna boss you around and throw such things at your face)
i personaly would spend time with both mabe later on christmas with your family and the other half with his this would seem like its fair to your parents and as well his parents that way all are satisfyed with the outcome this way both sides get your time and you get to spend wanted time with both sets of parents both have to understand about the time frame like for instance you come in the 23rd spend that time with one set of parents equally this will keep one from making snide remarks