We live together under my roof, I take care of everything including her. She has just told me that if we are not married by the time the baby is born then the baby will carry her last name not mine. Is this right?
Girlfriend is pregnant. Should the baby to take her last name when born if were not married?
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- 3+ months ago by newdaddy2...
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- baby, roof, girlfriend, under, pregnant, together, care, born
Answers (1)
First of all congrats with the news of the baby. Secondly this is just my oppinion, but it seems to me that she wants to hurry up and get married to you so that she can have stability for the baby without a worry that you will leave her. Some women try scaring the fathers into marriage. I'm not saying that thats what is happening with ur situation, but it is a possibility and I am sorry if the oppinion upsets you but with this help site, some people can be more ruder then I may appear. A child that is born even if the parents are not married usually gets the fathers last name, but some mothers choose not to do so. I don't think it's right that she said that to you. I believe that all children that are born should have their fathers last name. I think that you need to talk to her about what is going on. How long have you been with her? How old are you guys? I feel that if you do want to marry her at some point that you should tell her you do, but it shouldn't have to be until ur both ready and that she shouldn't use the baby as leverage to get you to marry her. I hope you think about this, and I hope you both come to an agreement and good luck with a healthy child.
Yes, I agree with Butterfly, usually if someone is pressuring you into something like marriage, it is because they have some other reason for pressuring you. You do need to speak with that person. Remember, Love is supposed to be patient and ever lasting, not manipulating. If she is manipulating it now, what would it be like in the future? It could be that Butterfly is the person in question. Good Luck