Gf mom problems?

Question

Okay so me and my girlfriend started dating when I was 16 (She was 15) We have never had sex and never done anything horrible in are life time. Now i'm 19 and she is 18 both out of school, both ready to start are own lifes. I make a nice bit of money from my online company, and she is starting school in 18 days.. Yet her mom in the last 7 months has blamed me for everything in the world.

I'm not sure why, I wish I knew. It all started with a harmless test from her mom to my Gfs friend. First, let me tell you what she did. My gfs mom would text my gfs friends from my gfs phone and act like my gf. Then she would delete the message and act as nothing happened. I really don't care because I know its not my gf, (Even got her a new phone and made her give the other one back) The fact is her mom does "Traps" Trying her best to break us up. 

Saying things like "Your Audited is your bfs fault" SOMETHING SHE WAS BORN WITH >.> Is my fault. She just comes up with random things. OH YEA, She sent my gf a text about 3 hrs ago saying she thinks she should date more people. TRYING her BEST to make her a slut. It drives me crazy, I want to get marryed . My gf and I are engaged but we decided to keep it a secret and the way her mom has been acting not even tell her or invite her to the wedding. 

The problem is, When I'm not at my gfs house her mom blames me when I'm there she loves me. I don't know what to do. I help this woman in every way I can, Hell last week I gave her 1,500+ for her bills and food this month. You would think she would show some kinda of thank you.

I try not to worry about this kinda of stuff, because I have alot of problem in my own family, My grandpa has cancer and my mom has surgery in the next few days for a blockage in her stomach. I really don't know what else to do. I don't want to banish her mom from me and my gf nor does my gf, but We BOTH can't take this anymore 7 months is just to long to deal with this, and it has drove me insane. I smoke more now, I get pissed off more now. I don't know what to do anymore

I hoping someone her can give me a good opinion on what they would do in this same problem in there life. Please remember I want no one else but my gf, and she and I are not sluts. IN other word "Dumb that bitch" type of answer will only make you seem retarded.  

Thank you!

Answer

It would not be fair for you to ask your girlfriend to banish her mother from participating in your relationship. But I sense that both you and your girlfriend are agreed that this can't continue so my advice would be to be straightforward with your future mother in law.

Get your girlfriend to tell her while you are with your gf as support that she is hurting you and your girlfriend and if she does not stop or change that both you will be forced to stop seeing you because you can't deal with the pain she is causing any longer.

If this does not work then you just have say to your gf that this can't go on and I'm sure she will agree and begin ignoring your gf mother until a time it seems appropriate open your relationship to her again.

The worst thing you can do is let it continue and ruin your relationship.

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well, just ignore the mother anyway it is you and your girlfriend who will live together not her but for sure having her is a hard time

Gf mom problems?

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