I have 2 best friends that overall are nice. One of them is my cousin who I have known since birth. We are six months apart and the same age. Anyway, I have been doubting my friendship. Ever since grade 1, she has been overprotective about my friendship with others and who I should talk to or be with. (She has gotten better over the years, but still is watching on who I'm with) at school she respects me, just like other girls she knows....but when were at an event at our youth group or something like that, she is sending out mixed messages to everyone else. She will jump up one me and start embarrassing me out of the blue. I have gotten upset at her a couple times. She realizes then that she has been bugging me and backs off. But then the next time she may be at it again. I really like having her as a friend when she respects me. Also, I don't want to end this friendship because our families are VERY close and usually my friend and i see eachother 5-7 times a week! My aunt especially would be onto me about why I don't like her if I told her I didn't want us to be friends anymore. I'm also feeling confused about this friendship because I literally CAN'T tell her my secrets! She would blab it out or tease or embarrass me about it he next time I would see her. I can't tell her who I like (even though she has told me and I have never told anyone her secrets). Recently this boy who i liked told me he liked me. i cant tell my mom because its not the same as telling someone your own age. It really hurts me not to have someone to talk to about theses things. It's hard to tell my other best friends my secrets because we're either all together or with someone younger than us. Anyway, I'm really feeling confused about this. Also, she bugs me abou my clothes because I don't dress fashionably. It makes me feel very self conscious and that has increased my sense or embarrassment over te past years. If I would wear anything "fancy", she would say something like, "oh, how posh! I've never seen you wer that before! Guys look at what she's wearing!" If she wears anything fancy, I comment that it looks nice on her or don't say anything. My mom is aware that's cant tell her secrets, and is overprotective about who I spend time with, and a bit about my clothes. She has told her to not bug me or let me choose who I hang out with. (This has helped somewhat) ANYWAY, does anyone know how I should deal with these problems? Thanks so much for reading!!!!!!! ;)
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Hello, I know EXACTLY what you are going through! Maybe you should just tell your cousin what she is doing to you, maybe she will realize that she is being a snob to you! And you shouldn't let her change the way you are! Wear what you want to wear! Be what you want to be!!! And maybe you should have some days alone with 1-2 of your friends instead of 4-5 >.<. I think this would help you, I hope it will!!
Hello, maybe you could tell your cousin in a nice and sweet way so that you don't hurt her and also in a way that she would'nt feel so bad that she might quit her association with you. Maybe if you explain it nicely from your viewpoint maybe only then she too will realize.
Hope this helps!!!!!!
Thanks!
Thanks so much! I'll try this!