Hi yesterday me him ,and the school counselor met together. First the counselor met with me to tell me the change that next school year he only wants to be friendly ,not build a friendship up anymore I had a hard time adjusting to this ,I (basically) have autism but not totally. it took me about 2 hours to calm down. The counselor says he wants to meet together and tell me this. So we met and the counselor asked us where we wants to go with this ,Then he asked him before me and he says friendly I guess ,and then she asked me ,which I was scared to answered I friendly i guess too,i wanted to be friends but the words could not come out. Then the counselor explains what friendly is. So he told me what he wanted ,like i cannot walk to classes anymore ,or sit with him. so i was a very upset ,and the counselor help me express my feelings. Then after a while ,he had to tell me what he thinks of me and he says your cool ,a nice person and its fun getting to know you a little. i had a little smile on my face and then a while later he changed his mind ,he says i could sit with him mon ,and fri at school and still walk him to class. Then he put his arms out and we gave a hug. So then he left and the counselor talked to me and says i think he felt bad and it was nice of him to do that. Then later that day ,i was walking to the bus and he ran to me and we walked together. Btw we are both males. I am not sure i feel kind of guilty ,not sure what to do
Maybe he has a crush on me
Friend only wants to be friendly instead of friends?
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Responses (2)
Many people don't know how to react to someone with autism because they fear of saying something inappropriate or doing something that will hurt them.
Being friends and friendly are different things - Friendly means be nice to, but don't necessarily want to form a relationship with. - Friends mean to be together and form an emotional bond to help one another (or something like this)
Firstly, when he said he doesn't want to sit with you or walk with you - how upset were you? And why were you upset?
Secondly, do you consider him a friend?
Thirdly, why did you feel guilty?
If you want help expressing your emotions, write down everything you want to express on paper, and check through it. Then try practicing it with the counselor. Gradually as time goes by, you start to write it in your head, making sure it is what you want. Then maybe see how it goes from there?
Do you talk to each other?
What did you agree on?
Hi today went well today. First thing in the morning I went over and he said whats up then my name.. then he asked if i did anything this weekend. and he was smiling and everything when i was there. It seems like he likes me. then i asked him if i could sit with him on wed and he says sure with a happy tone.
That is great!
So you guys are friends now, but you think there could be more to your friendship?
Have you considered asking him if he likes you as a friend?
Hi not really sure but i will be seeing him tomorrow
do you think it is more then to my friendship
Hi not sure but it seems like he likes me ,he been smiling at me a lot this week. now school is out for the summer, a while back a gave him my number and he says with a smile i am sorry i am just busy to text. but he said it with a smile. I am going to miss him this summer. today I told him it was my last day and he says oh ,he sounded ,then he really did not talk.
Can someone please answer
He lilkes you
Like as in ,as a friend ? or more then?
As a friend :)
Hi what do you think will happen next? i gave him my number ,do you think he will text me or something ?
Hi school started again and i am seeing him again. on the first day of school i saw him and he did talk to me but not very much. then later on i saw him ,and asked if i could sit with him at lunch and he says you can say hi too me. then later on last block we walked to the next class together and that went well ,then after school ended we walked to the bus together. the yesterday went he talked to me and stuff. then today went okay. in the morning i went to see him and he says hi quietly. he was with his other friend. i had the feeling he was trying to avoid me or mad at me. then when we were by ourselves i said your are my friend and then he said it to me too but quietly.then before we said goodbye i tired giving him a hug but he would not give me one. then later on at lunch i went over and i asked if he could sit with him and he yeah but quietly. then later i saw him and i walked to the bus with me. and then i asked if we could text and he says maybe. what is going on? am i seeing things that are not there ?
Hi I was upset because i wanted to be friends and i cried and teared a few papers.
I am not sure why i feel guilty