I had an argument with my boyfriend, we live together and basically he was disappearing all night to his friend he told me he was 'poping over' when I had gone to bed, this mate he has only known for about 2 months and lives round the corner every Friday and sat he text my boyfriend asking what he's up to.
The other day I had enough we were settled on the couch when a text came through about 11pm "poker game is on starts midnight u up for it" he replies he will be coming only it will be later (when I've gone to bed) I was so angry I threw a baked potatoe at the couch which hit him slight when it exploded, he then came at me grabbed me by the throat punched my chest threw me on the floor and rubbed the hot spud on my foot telling me I should know what it feels like he also spat in my face. I know it sounds bad but I started it I'm just so angry and also at his mate. He smokes a bit weed the last text I saw was the same night it at 1am said "going to play grand theft auto till 6 in the morning get high and drink beer, your welcome to join me mate.
Fight with boyfriend?
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- 3+ months ago by Pink pilot
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- night, friend, over, fight, boyfriend, together, friends
Answers (3)
sounds like this guy is trying to break you up and your boyfriend is falling for it well i think that its good that it wasn't female any he is giving you the respect about not going there till you go to bed thats the good thing istill not a good reason to be doing it is this going on everynight or just on fridays or weekends?
Its up to you to set the standars in which you would like to be treated. If it makes you unhappy you have a right to voice your opinion and he has to hear you and respect you. He doesnt have to agree with you. What exactly bothers you about it? Is that hes leaving? Is it the uncertanty of where he actually is? Etc... I dont believe he is being "respectful" (which was mentioned above) by leaving when your asleep. Actually the opposite. Even if you threw the potatoe at the lounge it doesnt not make what he did to you right or merited or deserved..I would suggest discussing what ever your concerns are in a very gentle and non threatening way ensuring he feels understood and respected also.
Doesnt make it right......******
Get rid of him if he has nothing to hide why not take you with him or go to his mate while you still awake something smells.
He says he finds it hard to fit everything in as he works nights he stays up as long as possible on the sat night, he says if I'm in bed what's he supposed to do,as his mate who he's known 3 months lives round the corner and will be up. It's the disrespect from his mate I can't handle, he knows we're having problems yet he wants my partner to come round or go pub, and it's every weekend like I'm not in the picture, it's so frustrating. He went round there few weeks ago for a BBQ and fell asleep on his sofa, returned at 7am, he sees no problem because I knew where he was am I going mad?
Our relationship has never changed in 5 years, but all of a sudden he says I have no life and need to get out more, and I'm jelours.
Sorry I meant he said I'm jelours
Perhaps this friend is trying to break you bith up. Eerrr.....i know you pribably love your bf and all that but a boy who beats a woman is a jerk. I know you hit hin first but a gentleman never hits a woman. There are tons of other guys out there who would love to be with you. Move out, get a new job and don' listen when he is saying he loves you and all that. He and his new friend can go and do whatever . It aint easy but forget about him. He aint worth it
Hunny I think he should not be doing that! He is in a relationship and supposed to be settled down!! He is a grown man not a boy and he has no respect! Dump is sorry azz because you cannot be treated like that! He is doing something illegal when he hurts you like that! You did not hit him with the potato anyways it was an accident! It may be the first time but it's not the last! He didn't love you if he hurts you and dis respects you! Get rid of this trash an move on! Find someone who loves you and protects you not hurts you and disrespects you!
Hunny you are a strong and beautiful women and you should know it to so don't let him treat you like les than that!
Hi,thank you for your answer, he works nights sun/Thursday so it's weekends he says he doesn't get time to fit everyone in just 2'days off, I've never met the guy. Last weekend there was a local festival we didn't go due to a large vet bill, I got mad again because a text came through from him saying the festival looks good is he up for it. He knows we are rowing and I am so frustrated why he thinks my partner will just drop me to go out with him, my partner says he's just a young single lad (28) were 35 enjoying himself, I don't know what to do so frustrated? Is it ok for him to leave when I've gone to bed? My partner is now claiming I won't let him out ( sorry this is a it long!!