Feelings for two great guys at the same time?

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I am a 23year old,  dating a guy for 3years. For months, it has been  LDR. We hardly get to talk and  things got lukewarm.  

2 months ago, I met this 19 year old guy, intelligent, and good looking. We started talking, we like each other. He gives me attention which i love.  I couldnt deal with my feelings. I asked my BF for a break and told him everything. My BF is  being supportive.He is confident that my feelings for the other guy will fade. The few days I did not talk to my BF, I cried all day. I deeply love him. He loves me like no other person can. He is not very cheesy or expressive, but he has been there through thick and thin and is still willing to.

 But I told the other guy that I am on a break and we have been talking more. He really makes me feel special and happy. There is no future with him though. He is very short tempered and immature, a complete contrast to my boyfriend, but its very exciting with him. And yes, there is no physical relationship with him at the moment. But he hugs me a lot, and strokes my hair etc which passes a current through my spine.

He doesnt know that I wanna be with my BF again. But i dont wanna him too. What do I do?  I do not know what to do.

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Sometimes we have to like whats good for us it is not the same thing in life times a i would take your time see where your heart is figure out where your heart is and go with what your heart tells you to do heart never lies.

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If I'm being honest, your 23 years old. You need to have fun, explore,do things that you might never be able to do when your tied down. Sometimes holding on too something can actually hurt us more than just letting go. 

Enjoy the break even though it will hurt for a while. If your already bored of the relationship what are you going to be in 20 years time? If I was you take time off and see where life takes you. If you are brought back to your bf in time 
then you know. The fling won't last long and you know that in your head but your bored. I think its best if you take a break but maybe look for something different. It could be a life change or a life lesson only time will tell.

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I think you need time on your own to figure out what you want, you need a break from both of them. You only like the second guy cause you're craving attention and he's picked up on that, you're young you've got plenty of time to settle down.  If you and your bf are meant to be together then you will, use the time that you'll be living apart to do your own things, you never know you might have fun being young and single. Good luck

Feelings for two great guys at the same time?

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