Family vs Dating?

Question

I am an Indian male. Have my own place and parent are living with me. They have there own place and renting that one out. 
I am dating few girls and wana see where it goes with them. All the girls after a few weeks say they wana come over to my place and feel like I am just using them because I never take them or invite them to my place.
 
I can't take them to place cuz it wont sit well with my folks and will unstable my relationship with them and it already has a bit as these girls are not Indian. Parents are moving out in March 2018. Since I had decided that I want to rent out my place fir a passive income. 

If I take them to my place parents won't be happy and If I don't then girls aren't happy. In both case I am not happy. I told one of the girl about the situation and felt how weak I looked so I didn't  bother telling the others

What do I do? Feel like my parents are effecting my dating life. But I am trying my best to not be a jerk too and all this is taking a toll on me mentally.

Answer

So ur in a bit of a pickle! Ur not happy kuz ur attempting to please everyone else which I think is sweet and considerate but not very realistic. Heres how I see it! U are an adult, ur on ur own and paying ur own way and u have the right to decide what u want and who u want to be with. Now granted bringing home ur date when mom and dad are there isnt ideal for anyone but even more so if ur date isnt indian. Unless ur planning on only marrying an indian women, u might as well prepare them and let them get use to u dating all types of women. They wont be happy at first but thats ok they dont have to be as long as they respect u and the choice uve made. Maybe consider letting ur dates do a quick drop in to meet ur parents. A 2min hi and by. This would go along way with ur dates kuz the reason why they are unhappy is kuz they think u are hiding something. Once they see that ur mom and dad are there I doubt if they will ever bring it up again( unless it with someone ur serious about) kuz no date wants to hang out with the parents. This would also start to brake down parents shell about who ur dating. Like with anything in life, it take time and repitetion to get use to something so the more ur parents see the more familiar it will become. As far as the girls go, follow ur heart. Dating is great and theres no reason why u cant go on several dates with a girl before taking it to the next level of inviting them home. Be honest with them and let them know that ur "dating" other girls and that u have no problem with them dating other guys. Make u let ur parents know that u love them and respect them and thank them for all that they've done but now its time for them to trust u and themselves that they raised u right and let u live ur life how u see fit. If they have an issue with it then its their issue and not urs. They had their lives to live and now u have urs. No one has the right to take that away from u. Good luck!

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