I recently became engaged. My boyfriend and I live in Chicago. His family lives in LA and my family lives in New York. I miss my family and have always planned on eventually moving back east. He has agreed to move to NY to be closer to my family as long as I convert to Judaism. I am not religious but I do NOT want to join any religion. Is it only fair that I convert since he is moving across the country for me?
Fair trade: He will move if I convert?
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- 3+ months ago by MiddleAme...
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- fair, family, trade, moving, boyfriend, conversion
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No, I think you shouldn't convert your religious beliefs. The matter of religion is a big thing within families, and you should have the right to remain as you had been before your engagement. You can compromise on moving back across the country, but changing your religion in exchange of moving isn't a wise move. If you convert to Judaism, you will face many strange requirements and views that you are completely unfamiliar with. You would be restrained by things you don't even agree with. Worst, you may have been raised by your parents to see things a certain way, and the religious views may be against what you are used to. If you can't hold out with Judaism forever, better not do it at all, because in the future it will hurt your relationship with your boyfriend if you promised him you will convert but end up giving up. You may not agree on everything your fiancee says or does, and he may not agree with you, but couples who are truly in love should be able to accept each other's differences. You should remain as who you really are, the way you will be the happiest.
Of course both of you should give something for the relationship to be fair, but how about try something else? For example, if you happen to marry, you may decide that your children may join Judaism like your fiancee and future husband.