I ride on a regular basis as I work with horses, and I have improved so much since starting my job, however, i often find myself not reaching my expectations for a ride and then getting upset, angry and frustrated at a result. These emotions affect my riding, i go from calm, tidy and composed to ineffective and looking very harsh, i usually end up giving the horse a kick or a pull on the reins, I always feel awful afterwards but I struggle to keep my frustration inside when things go wrong. How can I overcome this and what can I do when riding to calm myself down and prevent these 'outbursts'. PS- I have no anger issues or disabilities.
Equestrians: Getting angry/upset when your ride doesn't go well?
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- 3+ months ago by kb2399
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- horse, ride, angry, job, equestrian, frustration, horses, anger management
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ALL of us get angry from time to time. After all, anger is as much a part of our emotional makeup as love, hope, anxiety, sadness, and fear. Anger that is controlled can be expressed in a proper way and can serve a useful purpose. For example, anger can be productive if it boosts one’s determination to overcome certain obstacles or problems.
To express anger by physical assault, usually creates more problems than it solves. The angry person gets angrier, and hurt feelings build up in others.—Proverbs 30:33.
Anger can be controlled. You mentioned you do not have anger problems. Anger” is a general term describing a strong feeling or reaction of displeasure and antagonism. If you confront your reason as you have stated how you feel by venting your anger on the horse is the first step. If you view the horse as a living being with feelings and feel pain you may then ask yourself "would I vent my anger physically on another human as you did to the horse."
Prayer and meditation on such scriptures as Proverbs 26:20, which states: “Where there is no wood the fire goes out.” You need to gain mastery over your anger. Also breathing exercise and positive thinking. Get off the horse. Controlling your anger now if not it can escalate.
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