Emotional affair?

Question

I am engaged and my fiance doesn't meet my emotional needs, its not his fault, we just dont have that connection. He tries to cheer me up by hugging me, saying he loves me and saying be happy with what you have. Maybe I am just too emotionally needy and no one can meet my needs? I grew up in a neglectful environment and now I live in a new place with few friends and no family, so there IS a lot of pressure on him.

I just started talking on the phone with my ex, who lives far away. I know it is bad but I need someone to confide in and he and I have a very close emotional bond. I think about him all the time and am starting to resent my fiance, even though I shouldn't. My ex makes me happy again and I feel that in talking to him I have something to look forward to again. He and I are in love with each other. I feel excited and joyous again for the first time in a long time. But he and I also feel terrible about talking behind my fiance's back and having an emotional infidelity. What do I do???

Answer

I think that maybe you should tell your fianc&eacute; what hes doing wrong and try to come up with a middle ground or else your relationship could spiral down and out between you him and your ex. depending on what situation you choose you will lose one of them. and your fianc&eacute; is trying to start a family with you so it just depends on weather or not you want to start over on a past failed relationship. pick your poison.

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Oddly enough, men are much less bothered by emotional infidelity than women are. When infidelity is suspected, women normally ask "Do you love her?" and men normally ask "Did you sleep with him?"

This is not to say it's okay, of course. It does sound like you have stronger feelings for your ex than for your current boyfriend, though. The question then is why you are with who you are with. Wouldn't it be better to go back to your ex, if that's at all possible?

Emotional affair?

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