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Emotional Abuse - Is it normal for the abuser to act/say like he never intentionally meant to say?
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- 3+ months ago by Equasebarth
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- act, emotional, normal, abuse, emotional abuse
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Meant to say it and I never meant to hurt you.
Responses (3)
Yes. They will usually deny that they ever said or did anything. Or play it off as though it never happened and go back to "business as usual"
I'm a constant victim of emotional abuse. I can't get out of it because I live at home with my mother - who constantly abuses me and then pretends it never happened. She even twists the story when she tells her friends about it, making me look like the one that's at fault.
Let me give you a bit of advice... run away now! I was young, about 20 years old when this happened. I met a guy 7 years older than me and he was funny and charming at first. I loved him with everything I had and everything was great... at first. Fast-forward 5 years later....he was an emotionally, physically, abusive alcoholic. He would hit me and later say he was sorry or he would say emotionally abusive things and act like they never happened. You don't deserve this treatment and he will never change. End the relationship now before it escalates because it will get much worse! There is a man out there who will cherish you for you and never think about treating you this way. You just have to be patient. I hope this helps.
Yes. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship that is now classed under UK law as "coercive control". Everything from separating you from family and friends, to telling you you're worthless and generally putting you down for your actions, thoughts and appearance.
My partner would often put me down and say awful things about myself and my family, and then deny he'd said anything, or say that that was not what he meant.
In the end, I started to record conversations just to prove to myself that I wasn't going mad. After listening to them now, I am horrified that I ever believed that about myself, or that I believed that he had never said them or meant them in the way they came across. In the recordings it was clear what he meant, and after my friends listened to them, they urged me to break it off and get as far away as possible.
Do not stand for people putting you down and then backtracking afterwards.