Don't know biological father and this seems to have a big affect recently in school and outside of school. Don't like getting into relationships with people and I feel that this is down to not trusting many people (self diagnosed so not too sure) also get in moods when thinking about any of this. Friends have advised me to meet my father but nothing inside of me wants to see him but then I feel empty without knowing anything. Only found out (after 16 years of living) that my step-dad wasn't actually my biological father. Found this out by accident and just really want too know what could possibly be wrong with me or how I think about things or behave or whatever, all really confuses me, don't know how to put any of this into a paragraph that makes sense so I'm sorry for that, thankyou
Don't know biological father?
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- 3+ months ago by Olly13254
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- school, outside, father, trust, relationship, schools, relationships, biological
Responses (1)
Okay, firstly, there is nothing wrong with you feeling confused about this, anyone would be confused about it. It would be weird if you were "just fine". I would strongly recommend seeing your bio-dad because
(a) People make mistakes, he might be a decent guy despite that. He might even be worth forgiving. Do you know his side of the story ?
(b) Things you know have less hold on you than things you don't know. Knowledge is power. If you know your bio-dad you don't have to get hung up about him anymore.
(c) It is a good idea to find out if you have any biological risks like a family history of heart disease or diabetes.
(d) Knowing your bio-dad is not a betrayal of the step-dad who raised you. If you love your step-dad, remind him of that, and let both him and your mum know nothing will change that.
(e) You are not your bio-dad, and his mistakes are not YOUR mistakes. On the other hand you may get a sense of some things about him that are in you.
Now if you really don't want to see him, no-one can make you, but you may find a bit of peace if you do. You don't have to be nuts to see a counsellor, sometimes you just need someone to talk something tricky out with, so consider that too, it might help. I really wish you all the best Olly13254.
That does make sense, thankyou Very much