Does she have feelings for me... or not !?

Question

Well, the only fact I can provide is that... I actually like this girl. We are not teenagers anymore, I'm 25 and she's 24. We work at the same company, in the same project, sitting just next to each other. We talk a lot, however as time passes, I'm still unsure about her feelings. It'd be easier if she either likes me or just... ignores me. But well, it's not that simple. Here are some contradicting stuff I've gotten from her:

1. She's initially tender and shy to me, while being hyper-active and playful to other friends/colleagues. However, as time passes, she loosens up and becomes more and more playful to me as well.

2. When we talk, 50% of the time she smiles a lot, talks a lot or plays with her hair, clothes and toys. On the contrary, 50% of the other time she just doesn't seem interested, replying me with single words like "Yeah" or "No".

3. She actually has a boyfriend for like 5 years or so. She never denies that she has one, however she keeps insisting that there's absolutely no one for her to marry. Confused ?

4. She shares her new funny videos, pet pictures or even her childhood pictures with me. However, she never asked anything about me. She just doesn't seem interested.
 
5. In non-serious matters, she often does exactly the opposite of what I tell her to do, like if she's playing games on my mobile phone and I tell her to return it, she will just say "No". However, it stops at that, with nothing more came out of it.

6. As time passes, sometimes I notice her copying after my use of words. For example, I often use the words "Dummy" and "Frying Pan" when talking to other guys, which mostly only me using. Sometime after, while we spoke, I noticed her using those words as well, for the first time ever since I met her. Sadly, they didn't become her habits.

7. She was a pure Japan-hater. However, when she knew I love Japan and its pop culture (anime, manga, games...) she started taking a look at them from time to time. Yet whenever I asked, she still said they're really bad and she'd prefer Disney or Hollywood any day.

8. Everyday, she asks me to go out to have lunch (with a group, not alone), or whether I'm going home or not. However, regardless of what I say (Yes or No), her only reply is "Is that so ? Bye bye then."

That's all I can remember for now. Please give me your opinion, thank you very much in advance !

Answer

you know, sometimes we wish to receive a sudden call from the ones we do appreciate their being or the ones we are interested on them. i think, she is waiting for your unexpected "acting out". just surprise her and tell her for example:" dear, if i told you i'm thinking about you sometimes when i'm alone, or having my lunch or dinner, do you think this is normal for a single buddy"  or rather say, " dear, i just wanna take this moment to say : thank you a lot for being here with me" and when she will ask you why just reply : i don't know but i felt( not thought) i had to say it. but the most of the thing you are confused whether she likes you or not. but to be honest none can undertake to do something in which he had failed on it in the first time. make her think about you, whether by unexpected message in unexpected late night time, ask her how she thinks about the word getting married, the characteristics of her future husband, and try to tell her," sometimes, i feel depressed and i cannot go on, i think this is time when i haven't to cop out, i have to know, to trust, ..etc tell her " dear, tell me what do really think of me?... and good luck :)

Does she have feelings for me... or not !?

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