My boyfriend of almost 4 years has decided he doesnt want to be with me anymore due to all the problems we both cause for each other, but yesterday he was telling me he doesnt want me to leave him so Im confused as to why hes leaving me today.. But anyways. How do I become fine and happy without someone thats meant everything to me, been there for everything, for the past 4 years of my life?
Does anybody know how to move on from an almost 4 year relationship when youre still in love?
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- 3+ months ago by SleepyLady
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- love, boyfriend, year, relationship, problem, yesterday, years, relationships
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It will take some time before you know your ready. It doesn't take a click to be happy. Specially when you have been in the relationship for a long time. As for the reason why your so confused about your relationship, because he too is confused what is about to happen to him. Or his just really confused... Anyways to be happy is to be yourself, go out with your old friends, it may be awkward a bit at the start, but eventually you will get use to it.
I struggle with this question too. My heart seems permanently broken, but I try and distract myself with my work (I love what I do) and other things that make me (temporarily) happy. There is not much else you can do but spend time with friends, do what you love, focus on work or hobbies etc. Time will hopefully do the rest.
If he says he doesn't want to be with you anymore then it's probably best to move on. Of course he doesn't want you to abandon him, so he can find something new but then have you to fall back on. Best to tell him if he's made his choice then you are done with him also. You can't go back and forth, because it will only be worse for you, since he has made it clear you won't wind up with him. Don't fool yourself into thinking you will change his attitude. You need to consider that 4 years isn't actually a long time in the scheme of things. You will find someone else just like you found him. I don't know the nature these problems, but maybe there is something there you need to address in future relationships.