I became friends with people in a Chorus. I invited my best friend to some functions, & she was accepted as a friend, & made most welcome. I was personal friends with a couple, & my friend became a friend of theirs also & we had dinner with them at their home a few times. The fellow suddenly died., but of course I kept the friendship up with his wife. Lately the wife has asked me a number of times about getting together., but my best friend seems to be playing coy. As recently as a few days ago, I made mention that "Sarah" wants a get-together & my bestie said..."Ya sure..get calendars together &pick a date". "It will seem strange with Bill not being there. I loved him &know he loved me". Huh??? LOVE?? When she dropped me off at my home (we were on an outing) I mentioned that I'd make a call & set something up. My bestie said..."oh 'ya sure...whatever". Normally I would take the "whatever" as being dismissive, but I didn't. Now I wonder what's going on. If my bestie backpeddles when a date has been suggested should I say something...about it looks like she's not truly wanting to get together?
Do you think she's playing games?
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- 3+ months ago by chatterbox
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- playing, people, game, welcome, friend, games, friends, best friend
Added 3+ months ago:
When I mentioned the word "love" it's strictly a friendship love.
Added 3+ months ago:
I wouldn't want my chorus friend to think my bestie doesn't want to be friends because the husband is no longer there. In no way would I want her feelings to be hurt.
Answers (1)
Obviously this woman is "playing games'. And she will most likely create a rather ugly drama if you keep letting her play. Sounds to me like this "beastie" has her own agenda, and the man dying somehow derailed her plan. Cut your ties with her and watch how she reacts. She should be begging you to tell her what went wrong, but that won't be what she does. Don't be shocked to hear what she says about you behind your back because she will know you've figured out her game. You have to cut her off. She's not a good person.
I can assure you, there was no 'agenda'. My friend always says things that aren't as they seem, i.e. the part about him loving her too. They hardly knew each other!
There was a fellow at her work who apparently said to someone that she (my friend) had said something, It got back to her & she confronted the guy. He said to her, ..."I asssumed it was you". She raked him over the coals & told me that things would never be the same between them. Then just this past weekend, the same guy was in an accident & she gets a text from yet another co-worker. I said to her when she complained about this/that one texting & it not being understood.."don't get involved with it then". She replied..."Well, it's Jim..I have to know". Say what/?? Jim is just a co-worker & I don't find it necessary that anyone needs to receive a text on their weekend off. They are not close, & it could have waited 'til this morning.
I've also caught her in small lies too. She'll say that her b/f said this or that, & I know full well he did not because I heard it from HIM before she told me anything.
I wouldn't be surprised if she talks behind my back. She can be a very critical person., yet gives off the impression she's perfect. She can 'dish it out, but can't take it". If you tell her off, she becomes very quiet & abrupt, not wanting to talk.
My Mom would say..."She'll meet her Waterloo one day".