On a sunday around 10am my boyfriend hit me in the side of my head,shoulder and pulled out my hair over me hurting my daughter when removing a splinter from her hand shes two. I screamed at him to leave rang the police and they arrested him i wrote a statement and he recieved a caution. This has happened twice in the past of our 3 year relationship and i told him id ring the police if there was ever another time. Once out the police station he told his family and me how i apparently told the officer i had a limp from his last attack over a week ago and how hes given me a black eye before etc. Both things untrue id never mentioned anything like that and he sure hasnt done that to me before. I have a problem now and we want to move on with our relationship but now his older sister has told me all his family hate me and they refuse to speak to me or be civil when i drop my daughter off. Over a week later it was my birthdau and i had no cards of any of his family and i dont know what to do im really upset and more upset they didnt give me a card out of respect with no one asking my side of the story. What do i do?
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Ignore the guy Hannah...he hit you and your daughter, then he's no man for you. Did you marry him? If so, you shouldn't've done it because its getting your family at risk. Risk getting hit by men that do that.
First and foremost, happy belated birthday. It's a shame they didn't take the time to acknowledge the day you were born because darling you're amazing! You being in the wrong shouldn't even be considered because in my honest opinion, you've done nothing wrong. You protected yourself from serious harm and that's all there is to it. On another note, you should leave this guy and his family behind. I know it's easier said than done, but you could do so much better than a violent man and an unforgiving family. It's easy to excuse the behaviour of someone you love, but you've got a daughter to think about and your safety to consider, those two reasons alone should be enough incentive to leave. If of course, you don't want to leave then that's your decision, but I'd suggest maybe attending counselling with your partner. I hope everything works out well for you.
I agree. you were just protecting yourself.
Do you think its a good idea to move on by having a date with someone else? He knows i have a child ive known him since college he works away through the week but i can tell he appreciates me and hes told me im good looking and funny also a bit crazy ha but i live near my current boyfriends family so its a hard situation x
YES! even though you have know him for a long time you can't have somone who hits you for no apparent reason! right?
Hi family all hate me now bcoz i had him locked up and they all know about previous times hes hit me do you think im in the wrong for getting him cautioned i just needed a outsiders view