I recently received a paternity test that shows I am the father. The mother did not tell me about the child till she was almost three. Now that I know I am the father the next step is supposed to be working out a parenting plan with the mother, but I have no way to contact her except facebook and she has not answered me. What do I do? Do I have to get a lawyer and take it to court right away or is there some way to get the mother's contact information so we can try to come to an agreement without the court and lawyers?