I am wondering if a guy in his late 30's could really want to be just friends or are they waiting for something? I am friends with this guy--we are both in our 30's he says he wants to be friends--but treats me as more.
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If you feel he is treating you as more then he may well want to be more than friends. If you want to find out, just keep treating him like he's more than a friend and something might happen in the end. He might be saying that because the typical view of society is that the man should always ask the woman. If this is the case then he's saying that because he's waiting until he has the confidence for him to ask you so he can feel like a proper man. Sounds stupid but it happens a lot and most men want to be the ones who ask first. It is of course possible that he does actually only want to be friends but if he's treating you like more then this is unlikely.
A man needs feminine companionship. A lot of women, especially American women, won't give a man companionship, but they will give him sex. So a lot of men grow up thinking sex is all there is. That doesn't work right, and they don't know why, and they never figure out what's wrong.