i am a 28 year old straight female and i had a friend of the same sex who is 34 with 2 kids who developed some heavy feelings for me and wanted me to be her girlfriend/mommy her kids..well, i declined to date her and said we are just friends and i don't want to ruin that. well, she told me to TRY HER,( i don't take threats lightly) and i don't care how long its been, if you were angry then, you are still angry now.... she also told her family that she doesn't know why i stopped coming around and she wouldn't introduce me to anyone that she was with, when we were together. well.... she stopped speaking to me for about a year and a half after all of this drama and she never apologized to me either for the mistreatment. well, she's called me three times to try and get back in my life, but i don't feel the same way as she does and she just refuses to accept being my friend, and now she will no longer speak to me. some people have called me homophobic over all of this.....how does me declining to date my now ex-friend make me homophobic? she cant make me like women, nor make me want be with her. im lost, and never did i ever think someone would ruin a friendship forever nor did i think i would lose someone forever over something like this. i know its wrong to question someones sexuality, but this same sex stuff has really gotten out of hand. crushing on someone of the same sex especially a friend could have some disastrous side effects and they should know that some feelings maybe hurt after all of this, but i don't think they should let that ruin their friendships. my family says she fell in love with me and she knows that shell never have the relationship that she really wants so shed rather throw everything away and never speak to me again. i was shopping and i happened to see her yesterday may 24/2012 and she was like hi sasha and i replied hi and smiled at her and she looked at me with this glaring angry attitude/ANGRY look on her face and she kept glaring at me when she spoke to me with an attitude. she was straight ANGRY. i honestly thought that since shes working now she wouldve moved on and started befriending someone else and get over me. But i guess not. i didnt say bye to her when i left the store...something told me not too..., she was already angry so i figured, no reason for me to increase her anger. she was looking straight towards the food items as i was leaving so i figure she still angry, since she wont look at me, let me not say another word to her before she punches me in my face.
i just grabbed my items and left. she used to pass by my house unnecessarily. and she moved away and wouldnt tell me where so obviously she doesnt trust me....so she has no reason be angry...right.
i keep to myself now cuz im afraid of this happeneing again. i know its wrong to question peoples sexuality but this girl on girl crushes is really getting out of hand.
i offered to be her friend, (i have forgiven her for the pain and hurt shes caused me) but she refuses to be my friend.......i know i wasnt there for her like a i shouldve been for her and the kids..i used to help all the time until this...i apologized to her, and she told me we didnt have any issues.