I've been feeling down lately because of my university that i recently enrolled. In high school i have studied a higher education and was aiming to a specific uni that i really wanted to go but they rejected me due to my grades, so i had to go to a completely different uni which i don't really like. also most my friends are in that uni and their education is on my level, and the uni i am going to is so boring it doesn't make me feel like i really look forward to it. It bothers me because when i entered on the first day i felt like i deserve so much better because i studied a hard curriculum at school, and i even wasted a course to repeat some subjects in hope it will help my enter the college i wanted to go but even then i was pressured to finish them in a short time but i ended passing only one grade. i feel like i belong in that other college and i do not click with this one or the people, it feels difficult to find some one with similar interests due to this type of college as everyone is by themselves other than that uni. I've wasted so much time and effort and it felt like a hit by a bus. i really don't know what to do.
College?
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- 3+ months ago by Anonymous
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- school, college, high, university, feeling, down, education, schools, high school
Responses (1)
What is it about the other university that appealed to you that much? Is it just the fact that most of your friends are studying there and the campus environment or is it the type of education they offer?
If this is just about your friends being at a different college or the campus environment, give it some time. Try to keep an open mind toward your college. Surely there must be some good points about it, too - maybe it can even offer you something your first choice college wouldn't have been able to?. Maybe you miss being with your highschool friends almost every day that you don't even try to get to know your new co-students? Don't get me wrong, I don't want to blame you, I have been there myself and know how hard it can be to go with a second choice in life. Try to see the positive aspects of being apart from your friends and in a different college: you get to meet and know a whole bunch of new people, have chances to enjoy a different campus life and education and can make different experiences from your friends. And you can still meet your old friends off university.
However, if you were drawn to the other university because of the subjects they offer in the first place and those subjects are not offered at your university, maybe you could consider transferring to a different college again. Also, ask yourself what you really want to study. Maybe you are just unhappy because your subjects are disappointing to you? Did you expect something else from your classes? Being unhappy with a subject was once my reason for having real trouble with getting settled into my university life. Like you I was new and felt totally out of place. There was nobody there whom I knew. After a semester I decided to change to a different subject that I was much more interested in. I immediately felt much better, made a lot of new friends and started to enjoy my university life much more.
Don't let a little bump like a wrong college or subject let you down. Give yourself some time, at least a semester to see whether you can get accustomed to them. If you can't, don't feel bad for transferring or changing your subject - go with what you feel would be right for you.