My and my boyfriend have been together almost 3 years we don't live in the same town and we don't go to the same school he lives 40 minutes away. About 5 months ago me and a guy that lives where I live were talking he goes to college that is 3 hours away from where I live and only comes to town on the weekends anyways he asked if we could hang out and I ended up cheating on my bf with him. It was a mistake and I feel awfully guilty everyday when I wake up when I Go to sleep I know I deserve it and much more. I just don't know wether I should come clean or just keep quiet my Bf has he's done so much for me and it hurts knowing what I did to him. but I rather keep him happy than me ruining it on one mistake I will never repeat again. I do regret it and wish I could go back in time and not do it. please no rude comments I know I messed up. I just want your opinions. thank you
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Firstly, you are not messed up, you just made a bad decision. Tell him. Do it gently with tact and expect him to be angry but make sure he knows you are sorry and you knew it was a bad thing to do and you have learned and will never do it again. If you already have a good relationship, you should know each other pretty well and you should have some idea of how he would react, if he will blow up, when he will calm down and the like. Hope that he forgives you but what if in another 3 years he finds out and knows you never told him? Owning up to what you did wrong, no matter the consequences is the right thing to do. So hey, good luck!
That is totally up to you, if the guilt is bothering you then you should tell him but it could end the relationship. If you think you can live with it and know it was a one time mistake then don't tell him because telling him could ruin his trust for you and make everything go wrong. I cheated on my husband once when we had some issues and now I know I love him and that made it clearer to me and I will never do it again and I decided to not tell anyone that it happened. It was a year ago and the guilt went away and I know if I told him he would leave me and we have two kids and a 5 yr marriage i dont want to ruin.
But are you sure that your boyfriend never cheat behind your back? You can know it with a spy software like 1TopSpy. It works by tracking and monitoring all activity in the background of his phone such as: track GPS location, spy on text messages, web history, images, calls logs and spy call recording, spy on Whatsapp, Viber, Facebook messages, Snapchat, Line, BBM messages. It's my opinion.
I'm thinking of not telling him. I will just beg God to forgive what i have done & I know he will never found out. how did you deal with the guilt?