I no longer feel safe in my own home, so I asked one of my classmates if I could stay with her (I'm a 10th grader / sophomore in high school) and she said that she couldn't. My science teacher overheard me ask and made me stay after class. She offered to house me for the next couple of nights, but I'm not sure if I should or if I'm allowed to. Wouldn't be awkward (or illegal since I'm a minor)? The teacher is super nice and sweet (not weird or creepy) and I would LOVE to stay with her, but I feel like she might get into trouble if people find out.
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You need to go back to the reason you don't feel safe. You need to tell her and if there is child abuse (physical/sexual/etc) involved, she needs to report it to Children's Protective Services so they can investigate and get you out. Bottomline is even if you stay there two nights where do you go after that?
If you are in danger then go but the police should be notified. Whether you should be there or not she should know and if she wants to gamble with her career that's up to her.
I'm sorry if it sounds harsh, but have you researched availability in any nearby shelters? Deem it inconceivable that such reports of abuse be swept under the carpet so casually. Mayhap less so given general authority disposition. Nevertheless, you probably require more than just a few days' getaway, and they are better equipped for this than a friend or teacher. Cannot make light of this issue by the least extent.
Have seen your other posts. I know not whether the situation with your mother has worsened, or the attributed to some third party; nor whether you stay on account of your devotion to her or the uncertainty in foster home transferral. There are helpful individuals yonder, but can't make an accurate assessment. Be that as it may, since things have deteriorated to this point (maugre her treatment - assuming you have urged her for it), a more stable change is necessary. It's a difficult start, so you must be able to focus on studies in order to assemble the skillset to scale that hurdle, as later provisions (ie past 18) might not suffice.
Hang in there.
I’m very sorry the abuse is happening. Unfortunately, the law can take child abuse cases and other abuse cases slower than some people would like, and if thy find that there isn’t enough evidence or reason to go through with the case, or they believe the situation can fix itself, they can drop it depending on who is handling it or how it is being handled. If your teacher is not creepy and nice and everything you listed and especially if you feel safe with her, that’s what matters. I think it might look odd to an outside person that you stay with a teacher but it’s for a good reason so it’s not odd once you know a reason. I don’t know if this varies with where a person lives but Im pretty sure there’s boundaries between student and teacher, but for a case like this I can’t be sure that boundaries are relaxed, but if the teacher doesn’t mind, she probably knows if there are risks and is willing to help you any way (which seems like a very good teacher). What I would recommend about the abuse is tell anyone that could possibly help you, not just limited to the authorities (could include school counselor) and if you ever go back to your home, try as much as you can to call 911 whenever said abuse happens. Also keep in mind that when calling 911 you tell them everything that happened, as well as if there is a witness and possibly have the witness tell what happened, because this helps cases a lot opposed to two sides claiming each other did something. Also if you tell another adult, it might be hard, but try to tell them everything you possibly can that happened so you can have a good case.
I really hope your situation clears up and I hope you will eventually feel safe.
Both physical and sexual. She already reported it earlier in the year, but Child Protective Services didn't really do anything. It sort of went away and then came back. I need to get out of my house or it will get worse, but I have no where to go.