Last year, I made good friends with a boy a few years younger than me. And no, we're not gay, please don't reply that, it doesn't help. We loved each other a lot, more like a bromance. At the same time, being a few years younger than him, he became like my younger brother, he would always tell me everything on his mind and when he had any problems too. He has a crush on my cousin who is in his class and yeah, it's a little awkward, cause she's way out of his league, but let him try anyway.
Every day that passed only brought us closer to each other. During the hols, I missed him a tremendous amount, because we stay quite far away. we would message each other occaisonally. School started normally, and we were back to our friendship, and we talked a lot, but our friendship started feeling, I don't know, awkward or weird, cause he would bring his gang of friends[ around 6 of them], and I would be the only guy of my age around. Also, my parents came to know and my mom fired me, saying that i shouldn't hang out with smaller kids, people would think other things like I was using him and all other shit that I don't want to mention. we had a big row and I seriously though about suicide, but I'm not a coward, so I just stopped talking to her. For a few days at least. These rows continued until one day I decided enough was enough, so I sent a message to him saying, that thing's had complicated and I couldn't expect him to understand and I told him not to come near me or my friends in school and that i wouldn't either.
Now almost a week has passed since I stopped talking to him. I see him sometimes, but he avoids eye contact. He seems a bit depressed, he hangs his head while walking and drags his feet in the dust...
And I miss him. A lot. I cry myself to sleep. For the past year, I started every prayer with , Lord, please protect______' but now my prayers are become more and more demanding and whatever.
And I don't know what to do, because if I continue like this I might lose it, and if I make up to him, my mom will fire me again... And to make things worse, he's moving to London next year, so we'll lose touch... And I thought that breaking off the friendship would be good cuz it wouldn't break me when he left, but just being able to see him and Not talk to him is crippling me....Please please please please help me! Nd don't suggest doing anything behind my mother's back, I'm not that kinda guy..
Can you please please please help me? This is urgent?
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- 3+ months ago by blacknight
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- boy, friend, gay, year, boys, friends, years, help, good
Responses (3)
Before you go forward and read my reply just want you to know that I only mean to help and that I wont guarantee that this would d you any good.
Umm,first of all,this is something that YOU have do decide.Ofcourse,Your mom is right,I have been in the situation before,and believe me,people do think that you are using the other guy since you are from different age groups..but is this friendship important to you? Would you go out of the way to save this friendship? Evidently,both of you think that you were better off together..but let me tell you something; People will make fun of you,they will say stuff about you both, and at some point they may even think that chances are that you both are gay....but if this matters to you then you need to ignore these people.You cant expect them to understand so the only thing you can do is ignore what they say..Don't let their words get to you.If possible,try to make your mom understand..afterall,She's your mom,if she wont understand who will? She only wants the best for you,and if something goes wrong DON'T back down.Before doing something I would recommend you going and talking to this guy yourself,alone.Talk things through.I'm sure you'll get through and things will work out for the both of you..and if luck isn't on your side then don't give up,Everything that happens,happens for the best.
Good Luck. :)
P.s:- I'm sorry if my reply sucked,but it was worth it.
i dont see the problem i am just left school i am 16 have very little friends my own age most are 5 to 1 years older or 5 or 1 years younger than me people did not seem to care and if they did so what who cares as long as your happy with your friendship. Look at it from this point of view don't do anything you might regret and he is moving away soon! so i would tell him how you fell why you have been acting the way you have also i don't think it is gay and i don't know anybody who would say so.
hope this helped
Mimi123 has a great answer. Please talk to your friend. Your story made me tear up inside. I really think you should talk to him and discuss things.
You obviously have a very good relationship with this kid. You should not be friends again because you miss him and you can tell he is not the same. When you are older you can go visit him in London maybe. Make friends with this kid because you might not find a good friendship like this ever. Just because you miss this guy doesn't mean your gay you just have strong feelings for him and want him to be safe. Good luck with life. PS - don't commit suicide. It is one of he worst things on this planet and you will probably upset your friend for this also your mum won't be happy. Hop this helps
yeah, you're probably right...