I have a nonbinary (born female) sibling. When I get married is it okay for me to ask them to be my maid of honor? Or is that insensitive to their gender?
Can my sibling be my bridesmaid?
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- 3+ months ago by Satin_Dart
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- female, sibling, honor, bridesmaid, maid, born, married
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You are probably creating issues asking someone to take on an obviously female role if they are not sure if they want to be a female or a male. They will probably get offended but even if they won't how high are the chances that they will wear a dress to your wedding? One of you will probably end up unhappy. Better ask someone else.
You shouldn't make a decision based on gender assumptions. You know your sibling better than any anonymous online entity - would xe be offended more by not offering, or by putative disregard for their perspective? At worst, you could tactfully preface any problematic statements with your hesitation / reflections. Mayhap try an oblique remark of having yet to select a maid of honour, but xe might see through that.
Insensitive to what gender? If this FEMALE is not sensitive to her own gender, it's awfully hard for anybody else to be sensitive to it. If this one doesn't want to be a girl then she can't take on girl gender roles. I emphasize FEMALE because we only have two genders, no matter what baloney anybody makes up.