Hi! I'm 14 Years Old And I Live In Michigan. 3 1/2 Years Ago, My Mom Passed Away. I Got Separated From My Brother And 2 Sisters. They See Each Other All The Time Because I Live With My Grandparents On My Dad's Side Of The Family. I Don't See My Dad Much But I Stay With His Parents! They Won't Let Me Go Anywhere Unless It's Over Someone On My Dad's Side House...I Really Want To Get Out Of Here Because I'm Slowly Slipping Into Depression And I Don't Want To. They Force Me To Go Places I Don't Want To Go. They Force Me To Join Things I Don't Want To Join. They Force Me To Eat Food That I Don't Want To Eat And It Only Makes Me Throw Up. My Granddad Has Threatened To Hit Me And I'm Scared That One Day He Will Because My Dad Is Abusive. My Dad Has Never Hit Me But I Have Witnessed Him Hit His Girlfriend Several Times. I'm Afraid That He Might Hit Me Too. I Hate Feeling This Way. Please Tell Me If My Brother Can Get Custody Of Me Because I Hate Feeling Sad And Depressed All The Time.
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It’s tough to feel that you are in a rut, almost doomed by circumstances of family.
First, realize that the world has progressively become more dangerous and corrupt since your parents and grandparents navigated their own way through youth. The world at 14 or 15 or 16 is more dangerous now.
The time for you to take charge of your life will come soon enough. In the meantime, be patient. Enjoy your youth. (Ecclesiastes 11:9) Cooperate with the stand your grandparents take on dating, rules, curfews, and the like. Doing so now might just spare you regrets and heartaches later. If you feel that certain restrictions are inappropriate for your age or are unreasonable, don’t rebel. Calmly discuss matters with your grandparents or a responsible adult example your teacher or some you can trust.. Perhaps they’ve simply lost track of just how old you really are or how much you’ve grown up. Whatever the case, you’ll probably find that they are not really interested in controlling your life. They simply want to ensure your future happiness.
For more answered to more questions you may have, please go to jw.org and read the book " Questions young people ask, answers that work." click on publications then books and brochures and type in the search box as above.
Take care of yourself and set goals for each year of your life to keep yourself motivated.