so I have been invited to my brothers wedding, he lives an hour drive at both ends and a four hour flight in the middle to reach him. He lives close to my dad and I have not seen either of them in 3 years. The invite states that they is no children except their own, 11 and 4 years old, I am able to come but would have to bring my child and would be coming for a week to catch up with family and attend wedding but I will be needing to take my 6 year old son with me and everyone I know that could babysit him will be at the wedding, so I asked if we could be the exception and I could bring my son to the wedding as we really have no choice and he is very well behaved so he won't cause any trouble being there. I called my brother and he was very understanding as very pleased we could come but had to run it by the wife to be, after a few hours I get a call from wife to be saying that they both totally understand that we will not be attending the wedding...well I suppose that is a "no" to having my son come.....I do understand the reasons for it being that others might get upset that they couldnt have their kids come too could cause some trouble even though all those attending with kids not coming live close by and have sitters. O.K. so I was a bit upset after the call, had a cry about not being able to see my brother get married but I understood ( kinda) I then get a call an hour later saying that they have had a big talk and an arguement but both think it would be a great idea for me and my son to come now....hmm not sure I want to go I really did not want to start any fight between them and its their special day its not about me but I dont know what to say to them, I really don't want to go now, I feel like I have made them feel like they have to invite me and my son now and thats not what I wanted if it didn't suit them to make the exception...I don't know what to do. If I go then I think it could cause trouble and If I don't then they might get hurt... help!