Boyfriend silent on me, how long should I wait?

Question

I had an argument with my boyfriend via text. During this argument, I felt like I was being attacked unfairly, but looking back I realize he was probably under a lot of stress. The argument was about our future and my current state of unemployment. There was no name-calling, but I said things that probably hurt his feelings.

Now, he's not talking to me, and I decided to give him space. I have no idea what he's thinking/ how he's feeling. He could be angry at me, or hurt. He could be thinking of ending things. 

My question is, how long should I wait? Today is the 3rd day I haven't heard from him. What should I do if I don't hear from him in 2 weeks for example? Do I assume that it's over, or do I initiate contact? We've been dating for 1 year 10 months now. Currently in a LDR, but we have/ had tentative plans to meet up in two months. 

I know there's no point stressing about the future, but I'm the type that needs to have some kind of plan.

Thanks in advance!

Answer

Doesn't seem so serious to me. If you realized you overreacted, just give him a call and say that to him. Say that you regret and that should be it - normally he should accept that and move fwd.

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When there are arguments, some believe their should be a cool off period, but I like to think that the moment you realize that everything was going away > that was a good time to turn back around, say "Hey... what are we doing?" and try to sit down and talk.

I'd recommend calling him up, asking him how things are going and if he'd like to take a walk and just relax a bit.

Sometimes, it's more important to be a good friend and be their to just listen, or share time time together... 

It's also good that you realize his emotions were probably a symptom of the stress he is under. 

If you care about someone.. it's never really over.. and don't worry about the relationship breaking up... but do worry about your friend going through a stressful time.. alone... and be there for him.

Boyfriend silent on me, how long should I wait?

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