We have been together for 2 1/2 years and are planning to get married. He's perfect... and we have so many things in common. He assures me that he is attracted to me, but never initiates sex. He is very old-fashioned and conservative. He says that he would like more sex, but I have never seen him "desiring sex." It's turning into a more nurturing relationship but not a sexual relationship at all.
Bf (44yo) is insecure, lacks experience w/ sex, too nurturing ¬ sexual. Advice for better sex?
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- 3+ months ago by lwalters327
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Why would you say that ? most men want a saint for a wife and a tiger in the bedroom.
I actually have a little bit ...but been very patient and not too pushy to appear judgmental. Even tried to get him to watch porn....he went along with it, but really wasn't into it.
I'm not experienced with this sort of thing (I'm still a virgin), but maybe if you take charge. Get a cute, relieving outfit just for that occasion. Maybe takes some classes in stripping, pole dancing, or lap dancing. Or try bondage, with you in control. He sounds like he doesn't really know exactly what to do, so guide him a bit and build his confidence. And I'm sure there are plenty of websites that give helpful information. Just google it :)
I am not the type for stripping or dancing (sure to be comic entertainment ...lol)We but I have tried porn, vibrators, and I have had to be the dominant one, which I really don't prefer. He doesn't seem to be comfortable ....almost like he thinks that's bad, even though he denies it when asked. He's more into sweet kisses, cuddling, & nuturing....but not sexual. Who'd have thought a girl would ever complain about that? Lol
There aren't many men that i know if they has a wife such as your self would denies you in such a critical area in a relationship. Continue to work your womanly vixen magic on him. If he won't smell the nectar and want not to savior it sweet savory taste, then you know what you are face with. No woman should have to beg her man to enjoy what's before him.
He can't be "that" old-fashioned!
If he is having sex b4 marriage!
Maybe he does not want to be the 1 that starts it!
There are going to be +'s & -'s in any relationship!
It's all a matter of full, total, complete, unconditional acceptance!
On both sides!
Perhaps during those times of sex, you could talk to him,ask him what is it that he is looking for?
What he needs, wants, desires from you?
start the foreplay/sex?!
Tell him you don't mind starting it!
In situations like this.
All it takes is plain, good old-fashioned, common sense!
If there is something wrong!
Ask!
if he or you do not want to talk about it!
then just wait for the next time.
Id delay the wedding if I wete you. A marriage takes place in two rooms...the bedroom and the livingroom.
You're having trouble in both. If you don't have a fulfilling sex life now it's not likely to get any better later. If you have such lousy communication that you can't discuss it and you have to talk to total strangers on a website you are in deep doo-doo sweetie.
You need to have some honest up front discussion about sex.
Id delay the wedding if I were you. A marriage takes place in two rooms...the bedroom and the livingroom.
You're having trouble in both. If you don't have a fulfilling sex life now it's not likely to get any better later. If you have such lousy communication that you can't discuss it and you have to talk to total strangers on a website you are in deep doo-doo sweetie.
You need to have some honest up front discussion about sex.
That would just make him uncomfortable.