i think i might have anxiety as i have upset my friend group recently as they misunderstood my intentions for them: i do things unintentionally that hurt them and things. this is a example: i say to (b): my friend who i offended, when (a): my close friend from another class, was telling a joke on stage, and i said "haha (a)'s joke is so fake". the problem i didnt realise is (b) might not understand me when i say (a)'s joke is fake as (a) doesnt know (b). i hwve been long time friends with (a) than compared to my friend (b) who is in my friend group. she thinks that i am badmouthing (a) but actually i really meant it as her jokes r the type where it is funny because it is really kind of exaggerated and fake. they misintepret my intentions and are unhappy with me because of that and it has occurred a few times. i constantly worry day and night bcs of issues like that and i hope someone can tell me how i can change my way of speech. i constantly worry because i dont know where i belong in school anymore and im scared i dont have a partner as (b) is usually my partner. im sorry if this is very long but i hope someone can help me as i know i did something wrong. + i apologized but i find it sometimes i forget to be mindful of my words and i feel bad and apologise but it still bothers me the whole day. help? :-(
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We have a lot going on in our lives and it can be easily misunderstood but if it has happened more then once it might be a ongoing behavior knowing when to do theses things might help it makes others not want to be around you. They have been around it where it makes them uncomfortable and they don't want to be around this kind of thing you have to know what makes them unhappy and when not to do it I would sit down and talk to them and make sense so it doesn't happen again.
Very much so glad I could help
Very intelligent answer to a very reasonable question. Sounds like someone with experience....