Anger issue help? What should I do? (read additional detail)?

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Right basically ever since I was merely a 5 year old ive noticed that I suffer from issues with anger. I used to (and still do sometimes) shout at my parents. I got into a lot of fights at primary school and a couple at secondary school I even once hit someone merely because they shoved me and put them off school for 1 week. In lessons I try to behave but sometimes drift off and lose focus. I have for a while done many things I regret out of anger. For example I hate being told what to do and refused to take my punishment at my kickboxing class earlier today and hence I had to sit the lesson out. I have even split open my own knuckle before purely out of anger. My mum used to state that she was going to send my for anger management help but never followed through with the issue. Has anyone got any suggestions of what I should do to help control my anger issues besides medication (I would hate having my emotions controlled by medication)

Any way I could help control my anger?

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Many many people who believe revenge is good are nice people. People who used to be bullies have often outgrown most or all of it. If someone shoves someone on purpose I believe it's fine to shove them back but not much more than that. The problem is that bullies tend to taunt people a lot into fighting them. The trouble with violence is the consequence. (Not a bad quote there.) Mental violence or violence with words tends to have no consequence (,but not always). I believe it's more effective in making people learn as well. As long as it doesn't lead to physical violence or undeserved violence it's the best way to deal with anger if passiveness can't be used.

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I find all my answers to my life's problem in the most incredible book written a long time ago. It says "But the things that come our of the mouth come from the heart and these defile them."  So I usually look into my heart and see what issues I have.  Such as, " am I angry at certain people that I have never forgiven".  Usually it is something like that.  We must forgive people or it takes over all the other areas of our lives.  This old book also says "In your anger do not sin, Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry".  What that means is that everyday you must check with yourself and see if you are angry and if so deal with it.  Talk to the person, forgive and let go.  Do not let anger pile up.  If the person does not want to speak to you then its their problem.  You have done all you can, and let them fester in their misery and You be free from all that baggage.  If you do not take care of each issue as it happens you will be an angry person and it will be become a way of living for you to be mean to people in general.  Its good too to write out all your feelings and what you want in your life.  And yes this old book is the Bible.  It brings so much clarity to life.

Anger issue help? What should I do? (read additional detail)?

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