My sister scheduled my niece's birthday party on the same evening as my daughter's first ballet recital. So no one in my family felt like they could go to my kid's recital. I had bought tickets for some of them (not my sister) prior to my sister's announcement. We were excluded from this "family party" because we had this prior commitment, about which everyone in the family were aware. My sister "forgot" about the date and then wouldn't change the date of my niece's party. Our children are close like siblings. I'm furious with my sister. Upset over it all. I feel bad for my niece and for my own girls. I let my sister know and she thinks that I'm being petty and selfish. I am wondering what others would feel about this. Am I being ridiculous?
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Thank you for you kind and empathetic reply to my post. I appreciate it very much.
You're very welcome :)
I guess I expected her to modify the plans. I told her immediately, when she sent me a text invitation, that it was the same date as the ballet recital. She said, "Sorry you can't come. But we can't change the plans." I guess if she were truly sorry, I could forgive her. She has never said she is sorry and she is just mad at me for being hurt and upset with her for what she did. She thinks I'm being petty and she actually just stopped talking to me all together after I told her (by text) that I was hurt. We don't have a great relationship. Well, we don't have any kind of a relationship, I guess. I can't call her. She's unavailable. I guess I just wondered if others would be upset because I felt like she was so surprised that I was upset. My niece is 10 and her brother is 15. I have not missed one of their birthdays their whole lives. I have purposefully arranged travel plans, gone way out of my way to change plans. It just really made me sad that I missed this one. My niece was apparently not very happy at the family dinner and my daughters, who are small, were not happy. It's just sad. I guess my family relationships are not as great as I wish they were.