I have a friend who always leaves it to me to do the phoning. Rarely does she answer my emails, unless it's something that seems to interest her. I am having a procedure done at the hospital in a few weeks, & I wrote her yesterday to tell her about it. She has emailed another friend of mine as recently as this morning, so this is how I know she was on the computer. To that mutual friend, she never mentioned my procedure, nor has she written me back. I'm feeling a little hurt about this. I know for sure that if it were her other friend having the procedure, she'd be making a big deal out of it. Am I being overly sensitive here?
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Nope! You have every right to feel the way you do. Here's what I suggest:
Your friend may not even know how important this is to you! It may seem weird, but whenever something like this happens, it works for me. Let her know (in person), sometime when you know she's paying attention to you. Something like:
"Hey, you got my email right? About that procedure? I would appreciate it if you replied to my emails. This is really important to me."
Hopefully, she will realize her wrongs, and you guys can sort something out. If she doesn't, please let me know! Maybe I'll be able to give you some advice.
Good luck and best wishes! :)
I know what you're saying (about replying to my emails).If I tell her that my situation is important to me (the procedure) she'll take it the wrong way as though I'm putting pressure on her, yet if it was her friend who lives down the street, she'd be all over it like a rash. She puts more importance in her animals than she does people. As for your suggestion about seeing her in person & saying "you got my email, right?"...that won't happen for a long time. Over the last 8 months or so, we've only seen each other once over a couple of months. She's either running here/there..got this/that to do, & I'm certainly not welcome just to drop by. So for me to say to her what you've suggested, would be futile. Yes, I've done it before, when talking to her on the phone..by saying...'Oh did you get my email"?., Then she'll answer me about it, etc.
I am at wits end with her..On the quiet, I've told her boyfriend about my procedure, & apparently she hasn't even told him about it. He won't say anything to her, but is going to wait to see if/when she does tell him., then he'll ask her why she hasn't told him.
To busy for it to matter to her? She does her 'admin' work at home..paying bills, etc.
She's notorious for bad time management. We don't see each other very often anymore, but I know for sure she sent a mutual friend an email yesterday. If it were her other friend, she'd be all over this like a rash. I've been a very good friend to her, but half the time she treats me as though I'm not important. Enough already.