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Hi all,
I am wondering if I am being an abusive kid. I used to have temper tantrums quite often when I was younger, but I haven't really grown out of them yet. When someone does something to me that makes my hurt or upset, I usually respond by lashing out and being slightly verbally abusive. BUT, I am usually taunted during this time, so I think the degree of the fits would lessen extremely if that didn't occur.
Is there something wrong with me?
--Thanks!
Kate
I don't think it is considered abusive. I was kind of like that for a while but I started coping with it by clenching my hands into fists and telling whoever I'm mad at that "I'm angry because..." it helps and you should try it if you want to react differently also, when you do this you should take deep breaths. I didn't think it would work but it really does! I hope this helps!
Thanks for the great advice! I will try it!
What do you do when the person doesn't listen nor care when you say, "I'm angry because…"?
My mom does that to me sometimes. What I do when she does this is say "Just please listen to me. I am calm." and if she still doesn't listen to me (this sounds a little childish) I just think about how I'm right and she's wrong.
It helps too because I feel as if I actually said what I wanted to say.
Oh, and one last thing, I continue taking breaths until I am completely calm
Thank you! My mom usually laughs and is kind of mean if I start to go off the deep end. I am still not sure what to do.
Thank you again!
Your welcome!
im like that too my mom just like, gets all in my face I just tell her to back it up but she doesnt
How to do you overcome that?
There is certainly nothing wrong with YOU as a person. Everybody gets angry but different coping techniques help