This man is in love with me, but he is a narcissist. I have no intention of dating him, I made that perfectly clear. He makes me miserable, depressed and feel trapped. He tells me I am stupid, ugly, fat etc and that no one wants me and that he is the only one in the world who could love me. He tells me if I stop talking to him he's going to commit suicide and blame it on me, he manipulates my friends and they shout at me if I ignore his messages. What do I do? Help!
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Does he have your cell phone number if you have one? The thing to do and I'm sure your not involved in this but you might have to block him. Your friends need to understand what you feel about it make it clear to him again I'm not interested in you! or tell him you can't be anymore then friends with him if he calls you names not very nice you don't need to have subjected your self to this behavior that just says what he really thinks about you its not love. I would just quit hanging around where he's at block his number.
Yes I shall, I try to ignore him at work but he just gets angry if I don't acknowledge him. I work in the same building as him, but not in the same segment. But on lunch break he'll text me asking where I am and I see him walking around looking for me. I will call the police next time, and yes I am thinking about moving town now and starting new. My friends don't understand I tell them what he says to me, but they believe he's innocent and wouldn't say something like what he does. Thankyou for your help.
Just a quick follow up comment. Don't move towns because of him, I can't believe that he's so obsessive that he'll make you do this. But if you can afford it, and you surely won't lose your career then moving towns would be the best in this case. You're welcome.
Yah. I don't want to move town really but I might try and move jobs and change my number again and hopefully he'll move on from me.
Ok so this is one of those gray area's where u dont have enough to go to the police but its enough that it making ur life miserable. Is he on medication or see's a therapist for any reason? Have u thought about telling him ur getting married(even though ur not) and see if that doesnt ease his grasp on u? People like this will often continue their torment until they find someone new to obssess over. Sad for them, good for u. But who knows when that might happen. If he is on meds, I suggest handling the situation carefully kuz medication is a good indecation he is not all there. If hes not, honestly I would consider hiring a really big guy to enforce a little fear in the guy. Not violence, just let the guy know he better not mess with you anymore or he will see be seeing him again. As far as ur friends go; how can they be ur friends if they are telling u to enable the fear and torment of someone u want nothing to do with! If the situation was reversed would u do this to them? Then dont let them do it to you.
Yes he takes medication for depression and he sees a therapist. It's an awkward situation though because everyone believes he is not capable of being mean and is just depressed. One minute he will tell that he hates his life and that I am the only one capable of keeping him alive then the next he tells me everyone deserves to die except him because he's so wonderful and that I need to act in a certain way because he says so. He even at one point told my friends we were dating, but we never were at all. I've told my friends I will never date him ever. But they believe him and say I should play nice because he's depressed. And yes I was thinking of asking my brother to scare him a little, my brother is 6 years older than us and quite scary. And well at this point I've just given up on my work friends. They seriously believe he is not how I describe him. They call him sweet and naive. But I know otherwise. Thankyou for the help.
Yes he has my number, I would block him but he would get a new number and text me. He's done that before, I even changed my number but my friends gave it to him even though I told them not to. Thank you for your help though.