due to not bathing (she does not bathe for a couple of reasons) and whenever she is around her stench permeates the area. We normally meet at her place of residence or in a public place but I really want to have my son's first birthday in my own home for a variety of reasons. There will be many people here for his party and I can't not invite her but I do not want everyone's strongest memory to be that of her offensive odor. Please tell me what to do! Thank you so much
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If she is a close friend, talk to her about the odor issue. Maybe try to explain that you would like to invite her to the party but don't feel comfortable on how other mothers or children may react. If she wants to come she needs to bath. This isn't meant to be mean but you are both adults and have to communicate otherwise things will never change. Hope this helps!
I think "honestadvicegirl" has the best answer including yours. If this friend is being avoided because of her personal hygiene, SOMEONE should tell her. Maybe she is "noseblind" by now. If your slip was showing, wouldn't you expect your friends to tell you? (Of course, I'm a million years old and probably you don't know what a "slip" was. How about spinach in your teeth?) Just be the kindest you can in discussing it with her. Not "You stink!" Something more gentle like: "Our friends have noticed . . " Also a hygiene basket of Dove products (geared toward women) and maybe some Gold Bond powder products, would be helpful as maybe she doesn't know how to deal with her odor problems. Many of us did not have mothers you know. Just women who belittled us and betrayed us. As Sisters, we should stand together in strength.