I was with a man who is 14 years older than me for 6 years. We lived together the whole time and he had a daughter who I loved like my own who I miss VERY much. It has been 6 months and I still struggle with moving on. Even when I think about it, I feel guilty like I am cheating. I do not want to be back with him, but still can't seem to move on. Advice?
6 year relationship ended?
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- 3+ months ago by lls2
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- man, daughter, year, together, relationship, older, years, time, relationships
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Been there before. Moving on is tough but there's a secret trick to it. Think of it this way, little boys may love playing with toys and action figures as kids... then as they grow up and realize they are attracted to females... they change and become a new person. Same thing with you, you have to become someone new. How is this done? Very simple. The thing that separate most people is knowledge and action. Thus, you have to set new goals and learn more about a particular topic or industry. Grow into a new person now that you have time on your hands and don't have to maintain a relationship. Now it's time to have a stronger relationship with yourself. Most people, when moving on, pursue "personal development". So you can go buy 4 or 5 books on that topic and dig in. Where you focus your attention must change. So why do you still focus so much on your past relationship even though it makes you feel some type of way? Because you subconsciously keep asking yourself the questions regarding the topic of your past. You MUST fall in love with another topic, let your brain ponder answers to questions with the new topic. Make drastic changes in your life. Start a fitness journey, or start minimalism, or start a new netflix series you wouldn't normally watch, or have a new wardrobe of clothes, meet a new set or friends. Whatever you have to do... YOU MUST become a new person. You must make it so that the person he knew was the old you... not this new you. Your story sounds interesting, you should follow up and keep me posted.
