My 5 year old, who he also shares houses with his grandmother (he's my stepson, mother isn't involved) I had him completely potty trained than 1 night he had a accident at his grandmother's and she put him back in diapers. We didn't know this. We noticed him doing it more often just shrugged it off as accidents. Than he told us grandma puts "big boy pants" on him. Big boy pants not meaning underwear but pull ups!!! Since than I cannot get him out of them. Tried the no pull ups, he still pees and poops himself daily. Tried talking to him. Nothing. When he poops and pees himself he says he doesn't want to go to the bathroom and that he don't want to get out of bed cause he will be cold. HELP!!!! I've tried everything. He just won't go to the bathroom anymore. He starts kindergarten in Sept and I'm so afraid of what's going to happen when he does. I don't want children to make fun of him or having the school call me about this issue.. just don't know how to go about this anymore and I'm loosing my patience.
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5 year old refuses to go to the bathroom?
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Try and bribe him with something he likes, stickers maybe or some other small toys he receives when he goes to the bathroom. That usually works well. Definitely stick to no diapers at all, everyone has to be on the same page. Don't get angry, rather praise him and give him attention for when he goes to the bathroom. Try and be patient and stick to the no diaper rule, that's the only way. If you go back and forth he'll get confused. At the latest when he starts kindergarten he'll finish this, because he would be embarrassed with all the other kids there. Good luck. :-)
Yes, unfortunately it won't work if he is in diapers at grandmothers house, he is probably confused now. You could have a good talk with grandma about it and see if she wants to be on your side or you can just wait, he will stop eventually.
The grandmother says it's normal. We do 4 days with us and 4 days with her. We tried the give him things when he does for months. Don't work. When he comes back from his grandmother's it's like we have to start all over again. She said he will just stop eventually. And got angry with me for telling him pull ups are not big boy pants. It's hard when he's not always with us. When I mentioned school she said that lunch time we just have to go to school and change his pants. I work, my husband works I don't have the option to just leave work for this.