I got a call from my daughter who is in college today, which happens almost everyday. Today she told me that she was going through some old boxes that had been in storage and found some SD cards. She asked if it was ok for her to look through them. She knows her mother (deceased for 7 years) and I were into taking pics and videos of ourselves while intimate from stories brought up through the years by others. My question is this, do I tell her no trash it, do I say go ahead, do I ignore her? Thing is I am not feeling one way or the other so I am asking you.
How to answer daughter about possibly NSFW pics involving me?
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- 12 weeks ago by DefaultUs...
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This is a sensitive and challenging situation, and it’s important to approach it with honesty, calmness, and age-appropriate language. Here’s a thoughtful way to respond:
1. Stay Calm and Composed
First, take a deep breath. Your reaction will set the tone for the conversation. Stay calm to avoid making your child feel more confused or upset.
2. Assess Her Understanding
Ask her what she saw and how she feels about it. This helps you gauge how much she knows and allows you to tailor your response to her level of understanding. For example:
"Can you tell me what you saw and how you feel about it?"
3. Be Honest but Age-Appropriate
Children value honesty, but your explanation should match her maturity level. For younger children, you might say:
"Sometimes adults take private pictures to share between each other. Those pictures aren’t meant for anyone else to see because they’re personal and private. It’s something adults do sometimes, but it doesn’t change who I am as your parent or how much I love you."
For older children or teenagers, you can expand:
"You may have come across something that was private and personal. Those pictures are not something I’m proud you saw because they’re meant to stay private. Adults sometimes do things like that, but it’s not for everyone to see. I’m sorry if it made you feel uncomfortable, and I’d like to answer any questions you have."
4. Apologize If Necessary
If the situation caused embarrassment or confusion, apologize. This shows accountability and reassures her. For example:
"I’m sorry you had to see something like that. I’ll make sure to be more careful in the future."
5. Address Safety and Privacy
Use this moment to educate about online privacy and safety, especially if the images were accessed through technology.
"This is also a good time to talk about being careful with what we share online or on our devices because private things should stay private. It’s important to respect others' privacy, just like we want our privacy respected."
6. Reassure and Reconnect
End the conversation with reassurance about your relationship.
"I hope you know you can always come to me with anything, no matter what it is. I love you, and I’m here for you."
7. Take Preventative Measures
Ensure that such content is securely stored and inaccessible to avoid similar situations in the future.
Remember, your daughter’s emotional well-being is the priority. Keeping an open and non-judgmental line of communication is key.