My husband has been juggling mental health issues for three years. In that time, he's refused any help or tried to improve the situation. It has slowly deteriorated his well being and our relationship.
Last night we talked about how I feel his mental health is exhausting me and if he doesnt finally do something about it, I will have no choice but to leave. His only comeback was that I am thinking only of myself since I wouldnt care about this situation if it didnt directly affect me...and that we should take a break from one another since I'm "so exhausted" because of him.
Isnt this considered gas lighting? I am so confused and questioning whether I was wrong for even mentioning things. This has been a difficult road for the last three years-where he takes no initiative to improve things for ANY of us...mostly himself. I just dont know what to do and feel I am warranted in how I feel and should be able to also value my needs and feelings along with caring about him. But he thinks this isnt about him at all.
HELP!