I can give my opinion about a girl and a boy i havent kiss anyone and i kinda got rape when i was 8th or 9th the thing was that i did like it it was a guy and i didnt thought i was doing anything wrong but now i do and this affects my present and maybe my future people ask me if im gay all the time for not reason maybe its because i hang out with girls most of the time and my voice hasnt reallcy change help..? Need answers
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well,i think that u should have more guy friends than girls as friends or people r going 2 think that u r gay but just say that u didnt get raped by a guy say u got raped by a girl and ur voice will change soon and when someone ask if ur gay than say im not gay girls r nicee and say dude and u might want 2 get u a girlfriend but dont be something that u r not
Your response is normal for a boy of your age who was molested at an early age.Many do not completely get over it without counseling, while others learn to get on with their lives putting it behind them.If you try just to enjoy life putting it aside with God's help you can come out on top. If you are unable I suggest counseling.Narth is proffessionals in that area,you can contact them at Narth.com/home page to see if any in your area & if not many Baptist pastors have that kind of training mine was at Liberty University who may have trained people in your area.If need more E-Mail me & be glad to help best I can.Dwelling on it brings stronger negative feelings & fears. Try not to do that & if happens find something to keep your thoughts away from it.Remember God loves you & you are not the blame for what happened.
he lives to far away from me now and i havent talk to him in like 4 years
Again what you describe is a normal reaction.Often rebellion at sch & home,fits of depression & feelings of unworthy,& sexual confusion follows. Many psychs do not have enough training & follow a Freudian treatment & many kids give up hope because of that & is why I referred you to Narth as they are probably the most successful help in the US.Hard to help by using computers & if you were in Dallas, I would help you or send you to one I was sure can help.In meantime I suggest a Baptist Church & Christ in your life.If I can help,I will do my best.If necessary contact me here in pvt msg & I will tell you how to reach me here in Dallas.I will be happy to be your friend in need anytime no matter what you decide to do.Remember God made & loves you & He knows & is big enough to help if you really want Him to. Bless you kid!
Well thankyou so much for all ur help im gonna try to c if i can go to psychologist because i got a lot of question and i also act strange sometimes that i dont even know what im doing like if i c a guy at the mall or something ill be like oh hes cute and idk y thats just my thoughts that guy didnt really rape he ask me to try sometthing but he was never mean to me he was always making sure i wasnt getting hurt or anything he was always asking me if i like it or not and i did like it and we kept doing it until i was 11 i barely got to c him and eveything we try to have sex it only last for like less than a mnute cuz there was people around