and thats why i break up with my ex.... my recent accepted me and now he too wants to have sex with me and saying that he wants to make love with me .... he is very possesive about me
but i m not ready for it .... but he is saying that if you had it with your ex then why not with me ? and fighting with me.... but i love him n he loves me... but i m not able to come close to him because i think he may leave me saying that ... i do sex with every guy .....
he is not understanding me.... he kissed me but i didnot so he his thinking that i m playing with him ... now want to talk to my ex to clear it up that if he really forced me or i went muself...because he had lots of girlfriends in past and every1 has cheated on him ..... so he is thinking that i m 2 playing with him.... earlier he wants to marry me nw knowing all this he is denying commitment.... he is saying that if i love him then why not coming close to him.....? how should i make him understand that i m scared of my past experiences.... and do not want to have sex now before marriage ... but he is saying he cant live without me.. he thinks that i wear short skirts so i invite guys and later say that i was forced... i want to be with him but its dificult ? what should i do ?
I said my boyfriend that I m not a virgin, my earlier boyfriend forced me to have sex?
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my boyfriend wants to marry a virgin girl because he is a virgin and i m not.. i said him... still he wants to be in a relationship .... but wants to kiss me hug me feel me .... n make love with me .... all his ex girlfriends have broken up with him and blamed him .... he is hurted too much.... had family violence ... use to take drugs ... i m scared to do so because i m not able to understand what is going inside his mind .... i m not ready for sex... after all bad experiences i had with my ex..... he loves me from last two years how could i make him understand that i donot have intentions of taking advantages of him....
i had recently broken up with my ex .. my recent boyfriend thinks i want to forget my ex so i m with him ... but he loves me like crazy blaming me that i have made his life hell...
i donot want to make his life hell but i m not able to comfort him physically... sex is not important for me
he is my best friend so i want him to be happy.. he ask me to leave him but the other hand just want me to be with him and love him like crazy... and again fights with me ... says all you girls are same and says that if want to leave me then why you came in my life ? what should i do ? wen he is rude he abuses and when he is loving loves me like anything ....
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we are of different of different religion and may be it will be a problem .... in future and he donot like me talking to any1 and lots of things .... our parents will never accept our relationship
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Well, its too long question. I would like to tel you one thing do what your heart says, never listen other guys. And no one is permanent in life. If your bf is loving you then he need some physical relationship. Never think he will feel bad, just remember if he loves you then will never do any type of activity against you. Be straight foreword and enjoy life
The only reasion is that your bf is in two mind.
Now a days this type of relationship is made very common. to us. My suggestion is that ...live your life alone....Don't audit life always choose life. It is more healing crying togather, than alone.
listen me ... Do what you think is right .... Dont listen to any guy... keep any relation in your limits not his limits ... If he really loves , he will stay ... If he doesnt , he will leave.. And thats also good....
Remember , you will always live with yourself , not with your guy ....dont lose yourself for anyone ....
M sorry for my hard response but i had guy like this before... They just wanted you to do what they like but they never care of what you really need ...... Finally you will get hurted and they will leave happily
again sorry for negative response, just be careful ....love is blind sometimes .... Take care sister
thanks 4 ur rply i appreciate it....
n othe than all this prblm ... he askd me to forget all my past n then be sure and den come to him ..... he will like to wait for me... because he loves me from past 2 years .... when i was wit my ex .... an he says that living without me is a life without happiness and he so wants to accept me with my past .... and asked to just feel his love and keep him happy
and i have lots of respect for him for his these words ...
and decided to be with him ....
Relationship is not all about sex. If your boy friend really loves u, he has to consider your own view of things but if he doesn't, am afraid ur relationship won't last. In case if it does not last, next time make clear your principles so that it will easy for you to know if the guy will flow with you or not.
yes when he asked me " what i will say when he ask me for making love or sex"... i said if its sex then i will say no
but still he said i love you and will be with you always .... so i m with him....
i thnk dis guy loves you a lot, he is jus afraid dat you r goin to do d same thing with him as evry othr gal did..... assure him abt dis dat you nt gonna hurt him.... n to b honest sis..... sex is nt important in love wen ur words are true.... dat is sufficient....
i hope evry thing gets fine... jus make him understand politely.... he will understand
If in fact he truly does love you he would do anything in the world for you including wait till you are ready and I know this might hurt hearing this next statement but I say it with care. If he is with someone else get rid of him, it is not a healthy relationship and can become hard to deal with the stress. Furthermore if he is so adamant about having sex ask him if he is also adamant about having a child as well as being a father because 1+1 will always = 2. If he says that he is ask him to prove it by giving a list of about 10 reasons on how he is, if he can't even list five or six then he is not ready because, and you can try this, if you ask any father why he loves being one he will immediately spout off about 5-10 reasons just right off the top of his mind.
I really hope this helps.
ya you are right .... after having bad past expirience i use to think that all guys want only sex...
but his behavior .... even if he fights with me but still ends up it by saying " no matter what ever happens ...i love you and i m there for you always ".... this has changed me n i have started loving him and respects him ....