I'm 13 and my parents won't let me get a pixie cut. She said cutting my hair like a boy is a sin against god. She cuts her hair, like a bob, and I can't. She also said if I cut my hair I'm gay and my father will be mad & sad. But my dad said it doesn't matter. And please don't say "It's my hair not hers" because I told that to her and she responded " As long as I take care of you your hair is mine". She thinks I'm going through a phrase and will regret, like, as she stated, her. But I wanted short hair for 4 years now and I've been trying to convince them for 3. So how can I convince them, 'cause at this rate I'll have to wait until I'm 23.
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Well that's a hard one see if there are any things you can do for mom to help her out this might enable you to bargain to get the hair cut or if you know somebody who cuts hair that might be able to get it done that way the only other way I can think of if you get allowance you could save the money up and do it that way.
Perhaps she's thinking the hair cut might be unappealing. In any case, you're only 13. Be glad that she's interested in you and looking out for you. Consider what the Bible has to say re: parents at Ephesians 6:1-3: Children, be obedient to your parents in union with the Lord, for this is righteous. 2 “Honor your father and your mother” is the first command with a promise: 3 “That it may go well with you and you may remain a long time on the earth.”
Just do what she says; contrary to popular opinion most times mothers do know best.
I'm 14 and have the exact same issue! I've wanted short hair for nearly two years now and my parents won't allow me as I already act kind of boyish and they are worried this means I want to be trans... except I don't! There is absolutely nothing wrong with transgendered people but my parents seem to think there is, I'm perfectly comfortable with my gender, not my hair. The most I've convinced them to cut is the back and I love it but they won't go further. I've decided to wait until I'm 16 and move out to do it, so basically when they would be unable to stop me. Now, nobody in my family is religious so I don't have to deal with any of that 'God won't like you this way' thing and all that stuff and am openly lesbian or Bi as my family thinks but eh, same difference to them.
I'm still going to try to convince them to let me but for now, my only advice to you is to wait it out. I also want to assure you even if you were gay as you said your dad would be ashamed of that there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that, don't ever let them bring you down. My dad still makes offhand homophobic comments I've learned to tune out. Just be yourself to the extent you can until you can get out of there. Good luck to you!